Happy birthday to my beautiful girl Alysia. 💔❤️💔
(Sasha Ham before she could pronounce her name đź’—)
Today you would be 27 years old. 27 years old. It’s bizarre to think of you as a complete grown up. An almost 30 year old. Even more so to think of having a 27 year old child that’s mine. I still remember vividly who I was at the same age. As much as I miss you, talking to you, hearing you laugh, watching you grow up, your big bear hugs and you taking care of me (there aren’t even words to describe how much), what I really think about lately is who you’d be today, 5 years later. What would you be doing? Would you have found your place in the world? A job you love and a home that was truly yours. Your person? Someone who loves you fully and completely. Someone who makes you feel safe and sound. Would you be the young mom that you wanted to be by now? You would have been an amazing mom. It would have been so much fun to watch you with your own little person. Would we still be best friends and talk every day about everything? Would you be happy? The what-if’s swim in my head, today more than any other. We lost a huge part of our future with you. Losing you is the worst thing that’s ever happened to me and your brother. It still hurts so much. There’s a big gaping hole in our lives where you used to be. It still doesn’t always seem real. Like it happened yesterday and a million years ago….
Alysia there are honestly no words for how much you are missed, every single second of every single day. You were a precious gift. You so greatly affected the lives of everyone you met, you never even knew just how much. Hundreds of people came to your funeral. Hundreds. And they all knew you somehow.
I treasured our close friendship and miss it immensely (you were really truly my person), your absolute natural beauty, you had no idea just how beautiful you were. Your ability to mom me, while I was momming you, you were the only person who always took care of me. How brave and strong you were through your struggles with your health. All of the concerts we went to together because we loved the same music (road trip to Edmonton just to see RHCP and then back home again in 1 night). The millions of movies we watched together (the numerous LOTR, Harry Potter & Star Wars marathons all weekend long). The tv show marathons where we laughed and cried together. And then laughed at each other crying. Your wonderful sense of humour, I miss giggling with you at the most ridiculous things, your kindness, your intelligence, your spunk and attitude, your absolute silliness, your genuine love for the people you cared about, the way you lived your life on your terms, even though it was difficult sometimes, your distaste for the rules (driving long before you had your license), how much you adored all the animals in your life (and always, ALWAYS wanted more), and even more, how much you absolutely loved and adored and wanted to protect your little brother from the moment he was born, and how proud you were of him. You were an incredible big sister and daughter. Austin and I are so very lucky to have so many amazing and wonderful memories of you and to have done the things we did together in the short time we had. I’ll never forget our many, many road trips. Or Paris & London. Or New York City. Or Banff. Or driving all the way to Orlando to go to Disney & Universal Studios. My 19 year old daughter standing in line with all the little girls so she could meet the Disney princesses and have her picture taken with them. Or you marching into Tiffany’s in NYC like you owned the place to buy yourself something, just because you could. Both are favourite memories of mine. I wear your Tiffany necklace every single day. You completely adored your cousins Amber and Chelsea and love that the girls idolized and looked up to you. And you so loved your second mom, Auntie Michelle, even more so because you had someone else who would make fun of me with you. They all miss you so very much too. Your compete love of Christmas, it’s just not the same without you goddammit. And the beach, all of the beaches. I take you with me to all of them now. I loved that you loved photography too (just like your momma) and seeing how you captured the world. So many Jays games. The TIFF adventures. All of it. Every minute. Adventures just aren’t the same without you on them anymore, no matter how hard I try.
I was so proud of your ability to be a kid while still being such an old soul. And you really were an old soul. Wise beyond your years. Those beautiful eyes of yours held the secrets of the universe somehow. You were mine and Austin’s shining light, through everything, and always knew how to make us smile. You were our compass. It was always the 3 of us against the world. I know you are still with us, I see your little messages from beyond, and maybe that’s why we are somehow still standing through our devastation and sorrow. Thank you for keeping an ever watchful eye on us. Being our guardian angel. You are so missed Alysia. You will always and forever be so loved. You were so very, very precious to us. A piece of my heart will be forever missing with you. Your brother and I will never forget you.
You were beautiful. You were amazing. I was so very lucky you were mine. ❤️
Love always and forever,
Your Momma ❤